Don’t Outsource Your Worth
(Do THIS instead…)
Are you outsourcing your worth?
To ‘outsource your worth’ means that you base how you feel about yourself on external criteria: your success, your relationship, your looks and your status.
Doing so means you are walking on thin ice. Jobs can be taken away, relationships can rupture and looks can fade.
You need to stop outsourcing your worth!
Doing so means you give away your power, taking you in the opposite direction of claiming your truest form of self-expression and potential.
When you outsource your worth, you give away your joy.
But there’s another path.
To connect deeply with the fullest version of yourself, you need to listen carefully to life’s feedback.
If you are willing to listen, life gives you feedback about what is happening to you and the choices you make through your body.
It is your body–through a series of subtle emotional and physical cues–that will let you know if something feels right or not.
Your emotional memories have a physical record, stored in the neuromuscular patterns that affect every tissue in your body.
The science of body cognition and body remembrance (explained brilliantly in Amanda Blake’s, Your Body is Your Brain: Leverage Your Somatic Intelligence to Find Purpose, Build Resilience, Deepen Relationships and Lead More Powerfully) shows us that our body gives us signals long before our intellectual brain kicks in.
Let me explain it this way…
We can’t see ultraviolet light but bees can. That doesn’t mean the light waves aren’t there. It simply means they’re invisible to our eyes.
In other words, it is our biological apparatus that filters our perceptions.
We don’t see the world as it is, so much as we see the world as we are.
To access social and emotional intelligence (and step into our power), we need to learn how to therefore tune into what the body is telling us and discern the subtle nuances of your body states and moods… and respond accordingly.
Does what you are doing feel ‘light’?
Or does it feel ‘heavy’?
Easy or hard?
Forcing or flowing?
Pay attention to the knot in your shoulder, the pain in your knee, that persistent headache, the tense stomach, the furrowed eyebrows…
All those little signs are your body’s way of talking to you.
Your body is an important lens of perception.
Use it to enrich your life.